I often hear of so many women and families who end up (women always have a choice to marry or not but we are conditioned to believe we have no choice) go ahead with marriages they do not want to/like/not interested in and have to pay hefty dowries /gifts/money to the groom and the entire family.
Why? Family honour. What will people say? Shame. Guilt.
The groom’s side often demands dowry and gifts conveniently after the wedding date is fixed and the cards are printed (I have seen this happen in real life). The girl’s family bows to the pressure as it is considered too late to call it off. What will people say if we call it off now? Easier to go with their demands. People will say we were selfish to sacrifice our daughter’s happiness just for the sake of saving some money(What someone told me once)!
Would it solve a lot of these problems if we had a small simple wedding? No printed invites. Just a few close family members and very close friends.
Saves you money. Parents do not have to break their bank accounts or retirement funds to fund a wedding. A daughter is not a burden. Invite very few weddings. If the groom’s side counts on you wanting to save your honour and bow to their demands, this would not work here. You can cancel a wedding anytime. 500 people do not have to be informed. No wedding cards are printed Only people who love you and support you have to be informed. Then can the groom and his family cannot blackmail using social pressure.
Would it solve some of the problems – A simple low key wedding?