Every woman must get married. Period. That’s what our society indoctrinates us with. While, I have nothing against marriage whatsoever, I feel this pressure to get married and stay married is extremely intense in our society. It’s not like marriage is the be all and end all of life.
The saddest part is even highly qualified women, though not happy about the guy they are marrying; see no other option except marrying. They may have lived abroad, be financially independent and yet they would rather marry a guy they do not like and be unhappy rather than postpone marriage for 3 years. Women who are in unhappy marriages, insist that every woman must get married. Old women, young women, educated, uneducated, employed, unemployed, married, unmarried, parents, siblings – everyone insists that a woman must get married and stay married.
All these people give the same answer when asked why should we marry? – No other choice. We have to get married. What else can you do? You can’t escape our society.
Who says so? Other systems do exist. Is being in an unhappy marriage better than being single and happy? Is it impossible to be happy when you are single?
I am not anti-marriage. I am pro-choice. No one should be forced to marry if they do not want to; to the person they do not want to. Women are not time bombs waiting to go off, if not married by a certain age.
We should be able to marry when we want to, whom we want to and how we want to and not because our society expects us to. We have to live our lives not the society.
Is giving every human this choice so difficult in our society?