Japanese Packaging

I have received several shipments from Japan, be it for the office or hubs from different companies and they are consistently awesome. I love getting shipments from Japan because

  1. Their service is prompt, polite and good. They mostly respond on time and keep you updated about your shipment.
  2. Very neat packaging – The documents are folded neatly. The box is sealed neatly. The packing is close to perfect. Nothing is out of place.
  3. Their paper does not make my hand feel dirty unlike other papers where I always wash my hands after handling because I can feel a later of grime after touching them.
  4. Easy to open.
  5. It’s pretty and nice.

I believe that good is better than perfect and do not see a point spending in spending a lot of time packing perfectly because that’s my life slipping away,  I still love it when these perfect things arrive from Japan, though it will be cut/opened/thrown away. I wonder if they spend a lot of time packing perfectly and if they have panic attacks if something is not arranged or packed well.

If you ever pass through Japanese airport, check out their sweets which are also packed really well. You don’t even have to gift wrap them :)

Questions I am dying to ask

I am dying to ask 2 people on my FB friends list if they are having issues in their marriages. Recently, I was surprised to see 2 married couples unfriend their spouses on FB and suddenly delete all their photos together. I was sad and surprised they are having huge issues within 2 years of marriage. To top it, it was a love marriage and they have known each other for quite a while. What surprised me even more was how so many other people did not notice this at all.   One part of me wants to ask them directly on what’s happening and another part tells me to mind my own business. I cannot think of a single non-offensive way to politely ask them if they are having issues and it is not like we are besties. I admit I am nosy at times most of the time. If their marriages are really falling apart, this is the fourth time* – 

  1. I have known a marriage to fall apart in the past 2 years.
  2. where the marriage was less than 2 years old.
  3. where the couple had known and dated each other for more than 2 years.

*The third  and fourth were someone I knew here. 

All this makes me wonder what went wrong and it is sometimes scary. Didn’t they have more time to know each other when they dated for quite a while? Relationships seem to be so fragile and need tender care. At the same time, it is nice to know that separation is no longer a little less taboo and many women do not feel the need to stay in relationships that don’t seem to work for them for whatever reason.

Mother Exchange Program

I saw this video being shared on FB about mother exchange program. 

The ad shows 2 mothers (A & B) whose sons are living in different cities(Chennai & Jodhpur). The mothers talk to each other over the phone and exchange their son’s favourite recipes. The mother in Jodhpur cooks sambar for the other lady’s son who is studying in Jodhpur. The mother in Chennai cooks Ghatte ki sabzi for the lady’s son who is studying in Chennai. I checked who commented the most on the video and it was mostly guys.

The Plus:

1. It is a good idea as in parents exchange.

2. Sentimental and tear jerking (not for me but for many people judging from the comments).

3. It is indeed a nice gesture to have that done to you. Need not be food per se.

The Minus:

1. Why only show sons? Why not one girl in Jodhpur and one boy in Chennai?

2. Why should only mothers cook? When will sons learn to cook for themselves and their parents? Their wives will take over the mothers?

3. Reinforces gender stereotypes and that does not make me feel good.

4. It is disappointing how most ads play upon sentiments of people and just keep on reinforcing gender stereotypes.

What is curry?

I came across this article about Indian curry and I had to share it because Indian food is reduced to one thing by many most foreigners – curry

Few excerpts –

” The word “curry” is widely misunderstood….In the South Asian mind, curry refers less to spice and more to the consistency of a dish…..To us, curry means “gravy.”

“In Tamil, the wordkari means a kind of gravy.”

Some thoughts..

1. Ask married women where they are the most relaxed and comfortable and they often say at their parent’s house, especially those who live with their in-laws. They can get up when they want, do what they want, have good food and generally relax. Why is it normal that married women who spend the majority of their lives with their spouses are more relaxed and comfortable in their parent’s houses which they visit once in a blue moon? Does it mean that most women spend their lives feeling uncomfortable restricted in terms of clothing and their daily routines being determined by others? [That was rhetorical]. It is not even fair and I don’t get why people defend this hmph.

2. My colleague told me she was upset because her dad told her she was fat.  She is skinnier than me and cannot weigh more than 48kg. Skinny Asian (east) women seem to spend their entire life complaining that they are fat and they have men who keep telling them that they are fat when they weigh 45kg or less. Every adult woman is supposed to weigh kg or less or what? To hell with it.

On Blackhat

I watched Blackhat the other day.

In one line – Don’t bother watching it. I like Chris Hemsworth aka Thor (Nick in the movie) but his good looks couldn’t save this movie. It is slow. The plot was weak. The villain didn’t seem to have enough motivation to do what he was doing. The ending is unbelievable. Do people think they can be on FBI + NSA hot list and take flights to other countries without problems? And who the hell goes about shooting FBI agents in public with machine guns unless again, they have strong motivation?  I dozed off during the climax scene and woke up asking ‘What happened?’ 20 minutes after the movie ended ha ha

To speak behind other’s backs is ….

I was reading ‘Embroideries’ by Marjane Satrapi last Saturday. 

 It was a short fun read. The book starts with this saying which made me laugh – 

Marjane Satrapi

 To speak behind others’ backs is the ventilator of the heart.