What is curry?

I came across this article about Indian curry and I had to share it because Indian food is reduced to one thing by many most foreigners – curry

Few excerpts –

” The word “curry” is widely misunderstood….In the South Asian mind, curry refers less to spice and more to the consistency of a dish…..To us, curry means “gravy.”

“In Tamil, the wordkari means a kind of gravy.”

Some thoughts..

1. Ask married women where they are the most relaxed and comfortable and they often say at their parent’s house, especially those who live with their in-laws. They can get up when they want, do what they want, have good food and generally relax. Why is it normal that married women who spend the majority of their lives with their spouses are more relaxed and comfortable in their parent’s houses which they visit once in a blue moon? Does it mean that most women spend their lives feeling uncomfortable restricted in terms of clothing and their daily routines being determined by others? [That was rhetorical]. It is not even fair and I don’t get why people defend this hmph.

2. My colleague told me she was upset because her dad told her she was fat.  She is skinnier than me and cannot weigh more than 48kg. Skinny Asian (east) women seem to spend their entire life complaining that they are fat and they have men who keep telling them that they are fat when they weigh 45kg or less. Every adult woman is supposed to weigh kg or less or what? To hell with it.

On Blackhat

I watched Blackhat the other day.

In one line – Don’t bother watching it. I like Chris Hemsworth aka Thor (Nick in the movie) but his good looks couldn’t save this movie. It is slow. The plot was weak. The villain didn’t seem to have enough motivation to do what he was doing. The ending is unbelievable. Do people think they can be on FBI + NSA hot list and take flights to other countries without problems? And who the hell goes about shooting FBI agents in public with machine guns unless again, they have strong motivation?  I dozed off during the climax scene and woke up asking ‘What happened?’ 20 minutes after the movie ended ha ha

To speak behind other’s backs is ….

I was reading ‘Embroideries’ by Marjane Satrapi last Saturday. 

 It was a short fun read. The book starts with this saying which made me laugh – 

Marjane Satrapi

 To speak behind others’ backs is the ventilator of the heart.

Don’t Cat

I was in Daiso, the other day and I was amused by Japanese ‘cat repellent’ products. They were cute cartoons & they were animal repellents. Only in Japan :D

1. ‘Don’t cat’ – Lost in translation ha ha. Product telling cats not to walk over that area or suffering ensues.


2.  The ‘nobody-loves-me’ cat :(


3. Crucifixion of Garfied?!


4. This cat has a bad day ahead after coming near the cat repellent.


5. The my-ass-is-on-fire cat


6. We don’t want birds either around here…

7.  Now, its the ants’ turn to suffer… Notice that the ant is wearing shoes while running away and its cheeks have turned red!

8.  We don’t like snakes, do we?


9.  Whoops, I shouldn’t have walked here


10. Sad unwanted animals :(( I want to give them a hug.


11. Finally a nice product to make cats happy :)


Interview on Madh Mama

I was away on a holiday in India eating lots of Pav Bhaji and Pani puri which explains my absence :D Meanwhile, I am so glad to be featured on one of my favorite bloggers – Madh Mama where I talk about my relationship!

You can check out the interview here.

BIrkenstock for our wedding

P.S: Check her blog www.madh-mama.blogspot.comeven if you are not in an intercultural relationship because she has so many interesting posts about so many different topics!

The Wedding – Part 3

Read part 1 and part 2 here and here.

9. The day before the wedding

One day before the wedding, we had to go to the registry to verify our documents.  It was fairly simple. Just wait for your queue number and show your documents. The form stated that people getting married in the office SHOULD wear formal clothes. We were not going to be too formal and asked the lady

Us – Is it okay if we are not in formal clothes?

Lady at counter – Repeats the statement on the form verbatim.

Hubs – Has anyone been turned away from the office without getting married because they were not formal enough?

Lady (speechless because nobody asks such questions lol) – No but please try to be in formal attire.

Us – Of course, we will try but trials can fail. Thank you :)

We saw other couples who got married and gosh, everyone was in super formal wedding clothes. I could bet that nobody would be getting married like us the next day ha ha.

I would definitely give brownie points to the office for decorating it nicely and trying to make it romantic, though some of the decorations were cheesy. They have rooms where the marriage ceremony is conducted, washrooms, cafe and a make up room for touch ups! They had arches with flowers and hearts too. The marriage office is adjoining the fort canning park and the garden outside is quite nice.

We sent a reminder to all our witness and people who were attending the wedding. Hubs went for a movie and I went home cooked, did some gardening and pending chores and put on a face pack.

10. Guest list

None of them knew each other except the couple.

  • Witness 1
  • Witness 2 – Married, so the spouse was added to the guest list and both of them were our friends.
  • Spouse of witness 2
  • Unexpected friend in town – It was pure coincidence when hubs’ friends was in town and wanted to meet up exactly on the day we were getting married. So, we invited the friend.

End of guest list *gasp*

11. Wedding Clothes

I wore a cotton dress from FabIndia. It was a great blend of Indian prints with a western style dress, exactly like us :)

This was the dress I wore

This was the dress I wore – image from FabIndia website

Hubs wore a white shirt and trousers. And we both wore matching footwear :)

BIrkenstock for our wedding

Yes, we wore Birkenstock for our wedding!

Birkenstock was our official sponsor for the wedding ha ha. I am kidding about that but they should, right?

12.  The day of the wedding

I woke up at 11 AM without an alarm. We had coffee and lunch at home, got dressed and left home. We bought some Krispy Kreme donuts on the way. The lady at Krispy Kreme was kind and gave us free donuts because we told her we were getting married. We arrived early and waited for our friends at the train station. They came unsure about the dress code because we had insisted on an informal dress code. One of them had even laid out an ironed suit on their bed, just in case they needed it ha ha. We  reached the registrar’s office a good 40 minutes early and thought we had plenty of time to relax but we were called in half an hour earlier because somebody didn’t turn up for their wedding.

13. The wedding

They have marriage rooms with screens outside which display the names. The room was neat and nicely decorated. The official ceremony was a mix of western wedding vows and legal ceremony. It really was about 5 minutes long.  The official asked us if we had rings to exchange.  We said no. The official gave us the marriage cert after we signed the form. The coolest part was when we had to  leave the room. We turned to leave from the door we came in when the official pressed a remote control button, the curtains opened and there was a secret glass door on the opposite side like in James Bond ha ha and we all sneaked out from the other door.

We took some photos using our phones and exchanged rings outside the room. Well, we exchanged donuts as rings and promptly ate them. We had a donut for each of our guests :)

Our wedding rings - Krispy Kreme Doughnuts!

Our wedding rings – Krispy Kreme Doughnuts!

Promptly went for the bar. The bar was nice with a great view but people there were snobbish. Mainly rich banker type guys visit that bar. We were about to leave when the waiter told us to “be quieter” because we were noisy.

The view from the bar

The view from the bar

The view from the bar

The view from the bar

Then, we had dinner at an Italian restaurant which was fun and I think we were easily the most boisterous group they had so far. On top of that, we made so many politically incorrect statements *cough*

At around 11:30 PM, we left for home. We spoke to our families.

The Wedding  was over. Next day, we went for our Saturday routine of cafe like always.

14. What we may have done differently

We may have –

  • Invited some more of our family and close friends who were not in town
  • Maybe spent a wee bit more?

I don’t have regrets about my wedding and I don’t like  creating a big fuss about weddings. Weddings are for a day and it’s what follows that matters…